Need is the common denominator that allows every human being to relate to each other. All of us are broken, just in different places. Our needs are one of the reasons why we need each other. Need is the reason we have a marketplace to sell our goods and services. We all know people who make themselves a problem to others and annoy us to the highest degree. While we may not know the people who make themselves an answer to a problem, we definitely appreciate the goods or services they offer. Rather than rely solely on marketing, when we learn to solve problems for others, people will track us down.

Need drives us to do many things. In times of desperation, bad decisions are often made out of hunger. We tend to crave attention from others and will do things we otherwise may not have done. Peer pressure is infamous in this regard. Sometimes we feel we cannot wait on the timing and skip steps along the way. We cannot rush into what we need to grow into. Things take time, which requires patience. They also take order and obedience, such as in a recipe. Imagine the disaster that would occur if a decision were made to cook a dinner with total disregard for the process. No one would ever boil pasta in the box it came, nor heat up the pasta sauce in the glass jar, nor bake the bread at four hundred degrees in the plastic bag it came in. Of course not, all these things would create chaos.

We may be trying to get something from someone who does not have the ability to give it. Doing so puts undue stress on them and us. From the outside, they might appear to be able to give us what we need. In this day and age, we can have all the appearances of having money without having a dime in our bank accounts. We must not rely solely on others to fulfill the needs in this life. We must look beyond what others can give us. By taking an honest assessment of our lives, we can observe the needs we have and the needs that others around us have.

Relationships are enhanced by learning how to best fill the needs of those involved. The tricky part is in understanding what those needs actually are. If we try to fill a need with the wrong thing or in the wrong way, it will never be met. For the child who craves their parent’s attention, all they may want is an hour of their time spent playing, not another toy. For the spouse who yearns for attention and love, another gift simply will not suffice long term, no matter what the cost.

Recognize the value in one need. Understanding what our own needs are also important. How will we know when our needs have been met if we are not even aware what they are? If they remain unknown, to what will we strive for? Nothing is the most popular destination, conveniently located whenever and wherever, with whatever results. Understand the value of one need and then work to fulfill it.

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